I always wonder who Bryant is attracted to, just out of curiosity. He never really talks about it, so I’m just going to make a list of the few things I know (just so we’re all on the same page here, right?):
-all of the women from the Austin Powers movies- Elizabeth Hurley, Heather Graham and Beyoncé
-Rosemary Clooney in White Christmas
-Rashida Jones and then the woman who plays the newspaper reporter on Parks and Rec
-Kari Byron, after she has the baby
-not Elizabeth Banks or Billie Piper, because they look like his sister and his cousin, respectively
To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.
I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.
And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?
So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.
Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-
6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.
6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.
A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?
They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.
Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.
If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.
But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.
And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?
That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.
You. The rapist’s comrade.
And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…
Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.
There’s a weird schtick in season two of the Golden Girls where Rose gets in a bad situation and goes it an elaborate fantasy about how it’s going to unravel into her being forced to work for someone evil or wander the streets, running from the law.
I work in a really small town in New Hampshire and it’s usually very peaceful and quiet. This summer we had a bank robbery and that was weird and exciting, but no one got hurt. This morning there was a shooting at the school around the corner. It was just one kid who apparently shot him or herself in the face, and I don’t know if they’re okay or not. It wasn’t a big massacre, but it’s still really weird. I drove by and there were easily fifty cars parked on the street- parents trying to pick up their kids. A lot of people were standing around, and there were police cruisers and now reporters have started showing up. The scene is relatively calm and it looks like everything is being handled really well (I read that, while the school is in lockdown, parents are able to pick up their kids). It’s just very bizarre to have that happen here.
A year ago this month, Jordan Miles, an 18-year-old music student at Pittsburgh’s Creative and Performing Arts High School, was walking to his grandmother’s home in the city’s Homewood neighborhood when three undercover police officers in an unmarked white car decided he looked “suspicious.” Officers Richard Ewing, Michael Saldutte, and David Sisak, all white, would later say in police reports that Miles, who is black, seemed to be “sneaking around” and had a bulky object protruding from his coat that appeared to be a gun. It turned out to be a bottle of Mountain Dew—which, curiously, was never taken into evidence…
The three officers severely beat the unarmed viola player, who is five feet, five inches tall and weighs 150 pounds. They hit him with multiple punches to the face and a knee to the head. They also tore off a large clump of his hair… . Once he was out of the hospital, Miles, an honors student with no prior criminal record, was arrested and charged with loitering, aggravated assault, and resisting arrest. The police claimed that earlier in the evening they had spoken with Monica Wooding, who lives in the neighborhood, and were responding to her complaint that Miles was loitering on her property without her permission. But Wooding later testified that she made no such complaint. In fact, she testified that she has known Miles, a friend of her son, for years…
Under its charter, Pittsburgh’s Citizen Police Review Board is not allowed to look into the incident until all criminal investigations are completed. So while it took just a few hours to falsely charge Jordan Miles with assaulting three police officers, more than a year later federal and local officials still can’t decide whether the officers who beat him should be charged, removed from the force, or, as the local police union recommends, praised for their heroism.